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The Answer Will Always Be “NO”
Leave a question unasked, the answer will always be “NO” – #Justsayin
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard from friends, family and co-workers who say, “I was afraid to ask,” or “I didn’t want to seem – insert anything here – (stupid, greedy, needy, etc.) so I didn’t ask.” Sometimes we think, “they will just say no anyway so I won’t ask.” There are a gazillion of other excuses as to why the request for whatever it was they wanted was never voiced.
I can tell you this with absolute certainty, if you never ask the question, the answer will ALWAYS be “no.” It’s a truth I repeat too many times to count and yet somehow it’s a statement that is always met with a look of surprise and then “you’re right” comes out of their mouth.
It took me a really long time to absorb this truth but I will say that if you can manage to absorb it too you will get the answer you want more often than the “no” you think you is inevitable. I think we make the assumption that the response will be negative so that we aren’t disappointed if the “no” actually happens.
But here’s the thing, you just might get a “yes.” Of course, you might not really want that “yes” but I’m going to go out on a limb here and assume you wouldn’t have asked if you didn’t want whatever it is. Try it and let me know how well it works for you!
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